Darren Aronofsky's dark new thriller Black Swan explores an intimate rivalry between two ballerinas and the driven dancers also engage in lesbian sex. The script calls for stars Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis to have "ecstasy-induced hungry aggressive angry sex."
I'm not going to beat around the bush here. I'm just going to come right out and ask. Girls, how do you handle the hair down there?
I am a fastidious trimmer, although I let it grow wild in my college days. I was going through an "I'm proud of my pubic hair" phase in college, and I thought it was best to go au naturel. Looking back, I feel like I owe a few girls who dared to go down on me back then a big apology—it couldn't have been easy find your way through that mess!
Like me, a lot of the lesbians in my circle these days are trimmers. "I got it entirely waxed once years ago for my girlfriend at the time, and I would never, ever do that again," my friend Jess says. "It hurts so bad!"
I am a 71-year-old female and boy did my weight shift when I turned 66 or so. I have lost weight but still have a belly. I wear size 10 jeans but still have this belly so it's not that big. I exercise EVERY day, walk 2-4 miles and am getting tired to not seeing results. Thanks - Joy Hi Bobby,
First, I want to say thank you for writing Joy! You are the first woman to write to me and I am happy to hear that the females in the gay community are just as concerned with their health (and vanity) as the men. I also love that fact that you are more, shall I say “seasoned”. About half of my clientele are 60 years and older and I love working with them because they know that it’s not just about what they look like on the outside.
The NFL season is two months away. Even the pre-season’s frustratingly meaningless games are weeks away. In the meantime, our only option is to amuse ourselves by planning our fantasy football teams, right? Wrong! There is football--real, full-contact, smashmouth football--happening all over the country all summer long thanks to the Independent Women’s Football League (www.iwflsports.com) and the Women’s Football Alliance (www.wfafootball.com).
Here's a question for all of you lesbians out there: Do you find that some straight people can't wait to talk to you about sex?
I'm not a prude, by the way. I do talk about sex with my close friends—gay, straight, boys, girls. But I would never bring up the subject upon first meeting someone. I just don't think it is polite. For whatever reason, though, some straight people assume it is perfectly acceptable to barge into no holds barred sex talk when they meet lesbians.
My friend Jill, who is a lesbian, was telling me how every time she visits the town she grew up in and meets up with her straight friends from high school and their husbands, she is the center of attention because all these men want to do is talk to her about sex. Mind you, the talk isn't isolated to questions about 'lesbian sex'—these guys feel like they can discuss their own sex lives with her. What's up with that?
Some of us lesbians have a distinct type: I know women who are attracted to femmes only and others who have the hots solely for butches.
For those of you who are firmly in the butch-loving camp, how would you feel if your butch started going femme?
I know what you are thinking—that would never happen!
Oh, but it does, girls. Just like a femme isn't necessarily always a femme, a butch isn't necessarily always a butch.
What makes a lesbian butch?
If you had asked me this question twenty years ago, I would have immediately said a butch is an overtly masculine lesbian who dresses like a stereotypical man and acts like a stereotypical man. Period.
Now I don't know if butches have evolved, or if my opinion has evolved, but I can't define a butch so simply anymore. In fact, I'm confused as to what makes a lesbian butch these days.
I have a confession to make: I check out women in the locker room at my gym.
That's right. While these women might think they are safe from prying eyes, they're not because I'm looking. I can't help myself. If I see someone attractive with perky breats and a nice butt, I am going to take a peek.
I'm not obvious about it—at least I don't think I'm obvious about it. I don't ogle anyone, and I would never make a comment like, "I'd like a piece of that." But, believe me, I've thought it. Look, I'm a lesbian, and I go to a gym full of hot women, and they're all around me in the locker room in various states of undress. How can I not look? To me, it's like a free show—a reward even for hauling my lazy ass to the gym and working out.
Hey girls, here is a question that will stir up plenty of debate at your next dinner party: Is there a difference between lesbians who have had sex with men (even just once) and lesbians who have never been with men?
Let me begin by telling you I have had sex with men, although it has been years. It was great, by the way—I love how that penis device men have is permanently attached. But it wasn't so great that it changed my mind about being a lesbian.
Yes, I knew I was a lesbian when I had sex with men. To be frank, I was just passing time with guys until I found another lesbian. Once I entered a relationship with a woman, I never had sex with a man again.
The responses on my recent articles "Do all gay men cheat?" and "Are you really over your ex?" brought to light a level of hurt and grief many people experience but may not understand. As you looking toward the future and new relationships, it may be helpful to address feelings of grief and loss.
I like using analogies in my work because they can help make things easier to understand. Consider the analogy of the relationship between Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader in the Star War movies Empire Strikes Back and Return of the Jedi as a way to highlight how people cope with grief. (I realize I may be starting to date myself by picking the analogy!)
