True Dating Confessions: His Initial I.M. Encounter

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Ever secretly surfed a hookup site for a date? What were your results?

"When I first got online, I did not know men would lie about their ages online to get laid or to even get a date. Ok so I was naive back then, but weren't we all when we first started out? Well this guy IMed me on AOL so I checked out his profile. Under birthday it said '72 so I figured he was just a few years younger than me.  

I know you know where this is going already but I will continue any ways! 

He of course didn't have a picture of himself. So, continued to chat for a few more days and then he asked me out to dinner. I, of course said yes as it has been over a year since my last date back then. He told me that I would recognize him by his Bermuda shorts.  Well needless to say when I showed up there, he turned out to be 72 years old.

Only 41 years older than I was at the time. Only 41 years!! Well I decided to suck it up and have dinner with him any ways. A man's gotta eat ya know. So we ate and he talked about himself and his life. His sister had just died. His boyfriend of 15 plus years and just dumped him. His best friend had died the year before. He was just lonely and needed someone to listen. So I sat there for a few hours and let him vent.

When he was done he seemed a little less upset. So I told him it was nice to meet him. Shook his hand and we parted ways. I would never say it was the worst date of my life. There were plenty more guys my age, I went out with, who were complete a-holes. He just needed someone to listen and I feel good that I was that person. "

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Comments

[Sara]

Thats a sweet thing to do, I had worst dates with girls around my age. I think the best dates were with people much older than me.

not 72 I agree, that would have been a shocker.

But it was awfully sweet of you, hope you guys remained freinds. I know I would do that if I were you.

[splerk]

Isn't it almost funny that most of our gay society live our lives to be accepted & treated equal, but yet it seems that we exclude each other by judging or putting each other into classes more than the straight main stream.
We should be so lucky as to make it to 72 years. And if you do, you must be even luckier if you don't lose close loved ones and have someone to talk to at any age.
Regardless everyone will need someone just to talk to & be heard without dealing with the regular stereo typical gay BS or just getting laid.
Keep this in mine when out & about there & be more human or humane as karma may bite you in the ass in the long run.
Unless someone gets too perverse to suit you, stopping to exchange a few good words with someone not only can make their day, it could makes yours as well.
If some of us feel that we are not being respected for being gay, then respect our own kind in respect to ourselves.
And if you want love you will have it if you love yourself and that is evidenced by your honesty & shows pride.
If you do that you will never be unloved & love attracts itself as others of love naturally see it in you.

[John]

What to say what to say... First I applaud the writer for sticking it out and having dinner with his "date". Sometimes an ear is all any of us needs. Not all of us need a romp in the sheets.
Now to my rant:
I am on line on several "chat" sites. I take it all in stride and with a grain of salt, however....
It never ceases to amaze me all the guys on there that are looking for love and a LTR. In their profile they profess how great they are, how giving and caring and loving. How they are laid back and well rounded... Others claiming how they want to "get to know" a guy. Then the ones that want to date... Or even better the ones that want friends....
What they should say is that they are on line cheating on a partner, hence the no pic and the need for discretion. Or they are on line looking for friends with "benefits".
Even better are the ones that want to be loved unconditionally by that special one.... HMMMM then you read that this special "one" must be between xx-xx only, be toned or h/w proportionate, be a certain race, be into a laundry list of things... and they wonder why they are alone.
What if that special "soul mate" is 3 yrs or 13 or 23 years older then your preconcieved maximum. What if they have no tone no 6pack but a little belly or the other way around so thin every rib bone and tendon is visable. What if they are white or black or asian. But no you refuse to compromise... and all the while the cosmic fates are laughing at you saying there he is mr. right and you walk right on by. Unconditional means NO conditions. Karma is a bitch you get what you give... and when you are so arrogant to think that you deserve a tailor made mate you get lonliness. Hence all the 40yo+ men looking for guys 18 to 30. YOU are no longer 25 don't think just because you were once "VGL" you still are. I honestly think "VGL" means very gay looking.
We all want to be accepted to be loved... Start with loving yourself, then love EVERYONE since we are all beautiful in our own ways...And when did we get so shallow as to have to have our "friends" meet these same requirments...LOL and we wonder why straights laugh at us...
And for all the whiners our there complaining about the sites themselves, if you don't like them get off them, or accept them for what they are an alternative to the bars.. A benign source of fun and humor and entertainment... Yeah you may actually meet a few great guys or maybe even the "one" but don't count on it, and definately don't depend on it...
So stop bitching about it and as my friend says "Get off your cross Mary we need the wood."

[Jordy]

Thank you, John. I agree completely. We are a very judgmental community.